Day 5: Dami

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Happy New Year!!!!

2013 rolled in just like that and for the first time, I had no serious expectations whatsoever. All I wanted was to graduate from medical school this November and travel to Dubai and America with my friends afterwards.

January…
Mum’s birthday.

February…
Val’s day, Odunayo’s induction into the medical profession.
Odunayo my fiance whom I love very much did it, I could too and I would by November or so I thought.

March…
I saw the blood a few days earlier than usual and I remember thinking to myself that she had decided to come early this time. But my visitor didn’t stay longer than a day, neither did she give as I expected her to.

Vese’s birthday (my best friend, aka chicken pant)

I hate seeing her, but she came earlier than normal and didn’t stay as long which wasn’t normal. Odunayo thought it was the stress of my impending exams that was telling on her, but deep down we both were ill at ease.

He told me he had something for me and he had bought me two of the same product. I dipped the first, it was invalid, he dipped the second and smiled and I heaved a sigh of relief till he showed it to me.

Two lines!

Two lines!!

Two lines!!!

Where the tears came from, I still can’t say.
All I knew was that I was sitting on the floor looking at the proof of life growing in me.

That’s where 2013 really started for me. I. Was. Pregnant.

I thought it started from when a number of us were told that we didn’t make the required attendance so we won’t be writing our exams with the rest of the class. As such we would be given only one chance to write it, during the resit.

I was wrong.

What would people say? Me, church girl, Jesus junkie, pro sexual purity activist, fellowship ambassador, a fornicator, and a pregnant one too? What would my parents, a sunday school teacher and a deaconess say? My younger sisters in the Lord, my two younger brothers, my classmates, my teachers, my friends?

How do you explain to the people that you told to keep themselves that you didn’t keep your own self because…?

What about school? How was I going to cope during the last 6 months that were going to be the most hectic.

April…
Following weeks of depression and breaking up (yes) breaking up with the lad, I called mum, who called dad, who called me. It was true, their precious, perfect angel was pregnant in school for a man she wasn’t married to.

Never have I seen such disappointment in two pairs of eyes.

Never had I let my folks down so much I’m sure they wished for a moment that I wasn’t theirs.

Never.

Then came the torrential vomiting and loss of appetite. The perpetual weakness, they called it morning sickness. They lied. It was all day sickness, all night weakness.

May…
My birthday

A lot of water was already under the bridge and still flowing under the bridge. School had never been so hard, near fainting spells, overwhelming nausea, telling my friends was a task, but well, I guess they took it rather well.

I blamed him, everytime, refusing to acknowledge the part I played, after all, it takes two to tango. He suffered too, I made him suffer, not physically like me, but psychologically. I’m not proud of it, and I really have to acknowledge that God gave me a good man, who stayed by me despite the fact that I didn’t want to see him (I’m weird like that).

The first ultrasound was exciting though, I remember looking at the screen as the sonographer showed me my baby’s head and heartbeat. Shit just became real to a female nigga.

June…
Odunayo still hung around, he wooed me back *blush*, the ever doting boyfriend. Needless to say we made up. Hey, I love him, okay and we were having a baby.

My paediatrics test was awesome, I had never topped the class before, it’s still one of my personal victories this year, seeing my name among the five that topped the list :D.

July…
Exams were upon us, the tension so palpable. And wham!!!! ASUU struck, hit us like a ton of bricks with this strike that is still ongoing. We stayed back, hoping that the brouhaha would be over soon and we would write our exams. Well, then rolled in…

August- awesome month
Odunayo proposed to me on the fifth πŸ˜€ and convinced me that it wasn’t because of the baby.

We had our introduction ceremony πŸ˜€ .
August was a beautiful month.

ASUU strike was still on.

October…
Odunayo’s dad’s 50th birthday

November…
So my friends gathered to do a surprise baby shower for me. It was so awesome, I love them soooo much.

It started on the 16th, my contractions had changed rhythm, Odunayo left his call duty and raced to Ibadan but the doctor said it was false labour.

The 18th was Odunayo’s birthday, I had plans to lug him around with my big belly to an exclusive lunch, blah, blah, but by 4am we were already at the hospital.

She came at 7:20pm that day, our perfect bundle of joy. You know how they say you forget the pain once the baby comes out? So true.

The 25th was her naming.

God was faithful, is faithful. He blessed us with a beautiful child, his mercy and forgiveness and awesome people.

You’ve not known true motherhood till you watch your daughter go through labour, I love you mum.

My dad… I’m just speechless

My friends were the best, from the beginning, to the labour ward door.

Odunayo *sigh* I don’t know where to start or end. I love you.

2013 was just one year that went to fast and so slow with different twists and turns. I learnt so much, I’m really glad I didn’t terminate it, the thought sure crossed my mind.

December…
ASUU is still on strike, not like I mind, it worked very well for me.

2014… Let’s see what you have in store.

PS. I fell in love again this year. With Moyosore Odewole, my little princess.

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Just look at this lovely boat ride of a year this reads like. Doesn’t seem anything like the anguish you went through in some months. Thanks for sharing. Please give Moyo a peck for us. πŸ™‚

You can read the other half of the story in this link DUSK: ODUNAYO

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55 thoughts on “Day 5: Dami

  1. Congratulations on your engagement and baby.

    This made me smile. A lot.

  2. Ebun Oluwole says:

    Congrats and goodluck.

  3. Muyiwa Talabi says:

    Thanks for sharing. I went from squeamish to disappointed (for breaking up) to elation (making up) back to my original mood thinking of childbirth in the few minutes I spent reading this post. God bless you for sharing. It was an emotional roller coaster. I pray ASUU gives you more of a reason to celebrate soon.

  4. tiana says:

    Aaww Awesome. All things work together for good…. πŸ™‚

  5. walexemma says:

    Thanks for sharing. And I believe Congratulations are in order…

  6. LASH says:

    Don’t mind Dami o. She’s one of the brainees in school. You haven’t seen your name among top 5 because you don’t go to the board to check your result regularly. We wey dey go board sabi say you know book.
    I want to use this medium to praise you dami. For cheering up despite the prevailing circumstances. You just gave a brief summary but some of us have an idea of what you went through. The period of staying in the dark room, not coming out of the room, breaking the news to the parents and to us, your friends. But in the end, I’m happy about the way you handled it. I admire your strenght and courage. Thank God also for Odun and the kind of parents you have. Your parents should be giving National award. And some of your friends too, TFO in particular. Ofcourse Paks and Vese. We thank God. Ku ise ore mi

  7. Mimsy says:

    Aww. So beautiful. I actually had tears in my eyes.
    Your disappointment was definitely turned into a blessing.
    I thank God for the strength He gave you to carry on.

  8. Odunayo aka Responsible aka baba Moyo says:

    Mama nee, Uncle Efe and well meaning Nigerians ought to hear my side(s) of the story I think πŸ˜€
    Anyways, I’m just tip-toeing across.
    PS: now you guys know who’s responsible. Hehe

  9. donokizle says:

    Now this is just awesome! Awesome. Usually I don’t comment on here. I sneak in read posts and sneak out. This is just a beautiful story of triumph! God bless your soul…God bless you child and God bless your home.

  10. Olukemi says:

    Awww . . . This made me smile. A lot. Many, many congratulations! Thumbs up for being strong and holding ur head up. God bless ur union, and invite us to the wedding!

  11. yemisi otaiku says:

    Waoh dis is rili touching,it brought tears to my eyes. I’m so glad u dint terminate it. I love dat baby even b4 she was born. God bless d two of u wit wat to take care of her wit. Luv u Moyosore,Tolulope, Shalom,Odunola,Odunayo omo Odewole

  12. Jk_McDazzles says:

    i was apprehensive at “break up” but I smiled from “he wooed me back” till the end.. This is a beautiful and inspiring story..

    Anything can be overcome, any darkness can be turned to light if you have with you, people who won’t let go of your hand..

    Congratulations all the way.

  13. yougeecash says:

    You are a hero. That’s what I know. Your parents are wonderful people too and your friends are just awesome. I used to say I’m blessed with the best but now I’ll swallow that and say YOU are blessed with the best. Very few people would have made it through, but you did. Congratulations. God be with you always

  14. fiznitary says:

    J Moss’s “Good and Bad” comes to mind……God is Faithful……sure yur having a whole lotta fun wth ya Princess…:D..

  15. Frank says:

    I’m thankful for you, thankful for you and your bundle of joy. Have a good year ahead!

  16. Deric says:

    Written in such a manner that conveys complete conquest of a rather unsavoury situation. Thankful to God on your behalf for creating a way out and giving you such a beautiful testimony. May your joy be complete. Bless.

  17. Sugar says:

    So awesomeeeeeeeee!

    I’m so happy for you. I don’t even know you. Why am I crying?

    Congratulations.

    God bless you and your home.

  18. Sigmund Einstein says:

    Me I always knew u were super strong inside sha. Just needed to be convinced about it. And yes…her IQ is in the sky, don’t mind her o! #Justpassingby

  19. Sewuese says:

    Lovely write up and summary of the year! All the various emotions and fear and worries. .. but you went through it and #won! Things always turn out ok in the end. Congrats on your bundle of joy!

  20. Oluwatomi Adeoti says:

    So this brought tears to my eyes. Needless to say, it’s a beautiful description of God’s faithfulness and undying love for us even when we feel unworthy. I feel honoured to be a part of this amazing story, even if it’s in just a little way. I believe you’ll look back on 2013 as the year that words like amazing, overwhelming, overflow became a constant description for all your life experiences henceforth. Once again, I congratulate you&Odun plus a million hugs&kisses for our lil princess Mo *winks*.

  21. @shangytee says:

    Your baby is daddy’s birthday mate, *sniffs.

  22. elsieisy says:

    Nice! Congrats. And may God bless your home. Pls permit me to give the baby a name πŸ˜€ “AsuuSeyi. Lol.

  23. Mims says:

    I’m moved to tears by this ‘cos I can relate. I don’t know you, but I wanna give you a big hug for not terminating, for combining the stress with your tests and coming tops.
    Baby and Daddy birthday mates. Awesome!

  24. Bisola says:

    You’ve got awesome friends!that’s all I can say,and thanks to God for seeing you through it all.Love to Moyo.

  25. vixenpixie says:

    DAMILOLA, YOU HAD A BABY?????????????????????????????????

  26. vese says:

    booo of life!! I kove u Dear! so so much!

  27. Tinuola says:

    Listening to Taylor Swift and remembering how we rocked our imaginary’New York’ shows with those tunes in Pastor Tomi’s room then…..Those days are gone though . Now you are a mother to Moyo!!! *sigh* Still cannot believe it Dami . So surreal. Anyway I bless God working in your life because He saw you through. Hope Moyo is as much a rocker as you o!! Kisses

  28. anagail says:

    Let me just drop two holy kisses here. one for each side of your cheek πŸ™‚

  29. Longe Olumide says:

    Dami, you’ve always been an inspiration, your pregnancy didn’t stop that. Shit happens. But it’s good now, we are all happy and proud of you😘😘

  30. Tip says:

    Permit me to end this post with the classic fantasy line “…………. & they lived happily ever after” You sure deserve it πŸ™‚

  31. Gloire says:

    *sigh* don’t we all love happy endings?

    thank you. for this. for being strong. for forgiving you and him & getting back after the break up. for not being bitter. for not pushing God & loved ones away, for allowing them help & love you in their different capacities. you’re an encouragement.

    don’t I envy moyo already?!

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  34. […] Dami’s post last year was the most popular on the 2013 review series. You can read it here. CLICK. Dami, your story seems like just a plain family story. But it’s so beautiful. Do you […]

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