Day 1: Moyin

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“For those who wait”

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity

– Henry van Dyke

“For those who fear”

“We just have to wait and see, it might be cancer we can only know for sure when we cut her open”

Those words were said about someone very close to me. And the doctors were suspecting brain cancer. My life paused for a couple of minutes when I heard those words. And then the minutes ran. One test ran into another: biopsies, surgeries, chemotherapy, radiotherapy.

Months rolled into months. Fear became a constant emotion; constant state of mind. So much that living without it is an anomaly.

“For those who grieve”

My soul sister Modurodoluwa went to rest with the Lord this year. The days after were filled with darkness, despair, depression. Those were nearly the longest days of my life.
I grieved and still grieve for friendships, relationships, things I could have had, things that have happened, things that have not happened.

“For those who rejoice”

The times of rejoicing were few and very, very far between but I relish and cherish them. Times spent laughing over cocktails with the gang, crying tears of joy over somebody’s good news, drowning with relief when the tests came back negative. Rejoicing was found in rehearsals for dance club, practice for the school concert, excursions, practical classes, shopping with the girls, taking silly pictures, making memories.

“For those who wait”

2013 felt like a gap year in so many ways; a year that just existed. It just WAS. The recurring theme for the year was waiting. And I learned that sometimes, waiting can be part of the process. Sometimes it can be the very point of the whole thing. I learned not to wish the wait away, but to try to get all the lessons that can be got from the period instead.

“For those who love”

My family of choice has been amazing this year. I took the conscious decision to only expend effort on the things and people that add value to my life ( as cliché as it sounds) and it has paid off. So much. I made a couple of new friends, rekindled old friendships and they truly made the road worth travelling.

If anyone were to ask me what the biggest lessons I learned in 2013 was I would say it was to not spend too much time wishing the down times away because memories are made minute by minute. And to not necessarily wish the bad away.

So as I cross over to 2014, my prayers are that I have happier times and that I have the patience to make memories and take in the scenery every step of the way.

May your road be rough!

Cheers to an excellent 2014.

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For the third year in a row Moyin has launched this series here on 19th Street. We all love her. Thank you Moyin

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18 thoughts on “Day 1: Moyin

  1. rockefeller says:

    Great way to start

  2. kovieparker says:

    Moyin, sister-friend. Love you big, and you’re in my prayers everyday. You make the road worth travelling. :*

  3. 4evaphoenix says:

    My take home message – don’t wish the down times away. Learn the lessons in them.
    A colleague actually mentioned this to me a while ago, he said I keep wishing my life away. Also I feel as if most of my life has been a waiting game, I’m constantly chomping at the bit to get to the next stage. The stage that I think I’m meant to be at. Perhaps I should just trust that Abba knows how to lead me
    & that right here, where I am, is EXACTLY where I am meant to be…right now.

    Thanks so much Moyin. I kinda needed this. *hugs*

  4. Ibukun says:

    Moyin love,
    I’m thankful for you and all the lessons you learned this year. grateful that I got to know you this year. Grateful for you and your family, Jesus, laughter, grief, tears.

  5. Clarion says:

    🙂 Making the best of whatever sitution one is in. Thank God for the trials and challenges that help shape and strengthen us.

  6. Ebun Oluwole says:

    I can relate to the waiting part.

  7. Jk_McDazzles says:

    I remember when the news of MsDuro’s death was broken. Lord I was sad. I didn’t follow her, I didint know her but I read her guest review here for 2011.. May all of you her friends and family be comforted..

    “I took the conscious decision to only expend effort on the things and people that add value to my life..” This was my motto when I was 14yrs. A decade and more after, I realised that there are people whose angels we must be to fulfill our purposes in life even though they can offer us nothing..

    Waiting is easier if you stop looking at the clock, if you stop wondering at what tick the dawn will break.. I hope we remember this.. I hope life is easier next year.

    Thank you for ushering us in with a great post. Blessings to you in the new year..

    • Christabel says:

      You just had to do that. Make me realise that I need to accommodate people sometimes even tho they contribute nothing to me. Ugh! I hate you. No. God bless you.

  8. malota says:

    Man…everything about this post, fear, grieve, rejoice, wait, love. Thanks for sharing it with us. Can i join you in your prayer? to have happier times, the patience to make memories and take in the scenery every step of the way? Amen

  9. NIRO says:

    Cheers to happier timesm 🙂

  10. Tobi says:

    Random thoughts of Dolu still cross my mind and I remember bits of conversation with her. Her number is still in my address book, I still find it difficult to delete her off my bbm list. When I’m going through either of these lists, I stumble across her name, and I remember again. I hope other people are faring better than I am.

    Here’s wishing us all a way better 2014

  11. Sisi Jacobs says:

    Life and all its ups and downs, realizing its also about the journey, not just the destination. Thank you for being part of my year :*

  12. “May your road be rough” Brave words by Tai Solarin. Easier said than done but bearing life’s enduring lessons. All the best with 2014!!

  13. anagail says:

    i found myself holding my breath at points, hoping with you, believing. I wish you the best in the coming years 🙂

  14. hahishaa says:

    Just reading up on all the posts and this felt like me. Especially “for those who wait”. The greater part of the year was spent waiting, then a lil breakthrough, and back to waiting till the rest of d year.

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