Why Do People Cheat?

Bolouere (@Boluxxxx) wants to talk about why people cheat. I’m interested in this conversation. So let’s kick it off

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This is an age-long question I like to categorise with other near unanswerable questions like “when will Jesus come?” “What do women want? Etc. Anyways, I sincerely don’t think there is an absolute answer for this particular question. I”ll just play around with illustrations and let’s see if we can come close to something . I’ve got 3
1. My former neighbours  Papa and Mama Tari had been married for 10 years then relocated to the US. One day, while shopping, mama Tari got a vibrator. Unknown to papa Tari, mama Tari had never had a real orgasm with him and had faked it throughout their marriage. As time went on , mama Tari got into her new toy and became really addicted. How we heard the matter was that papa Tari (whom I still hear mama Tari couldn’t tell he had poor bed skills) wanted a divorce. His point was, she had become addicted to her toy, used it all the time and till she forgot to do duties round the house as regards the kids and himself (sex included). Bottomline was that she was cheating(with a vibrator).
2. Mr Gbadamosi who was a very wealthy stark illiterate got married. He and his wife didn’t have any kids after 4 years and after bowing to pressure, he got a new wife and eventually another who both bore him 6 kids. One day Mr Gbadamosi(who loved his first wife very dearly still) decided to follow her for a fertility test and decided to take the test too to humour himself. The results were sent to madam since oga was illiterate. It turned out that oga was impotent. Madam quietly hid the results. One year later they threw a lavish party to welcome madam’s first child, God’s miracle to her after many years of waiting etc. She sha cheated. We know why.
3.  This happened while I was in the university. I had this friend who was just mean to his girlfriend. He beat her up occasionally too. I knew for a fact he loved her like real hard so I couldn’t get why he was so harsh. One day I summoned courage and asked him why. Here was the reason. They met in 200level, practically lived together in school, were inseparable and well known as a couple. She actually lived in Abuja and we were in UniBen but she had to be at home every weekend. Ordinarily she would have done road trips but he didn’t want his baby stressed so he paid her air fares almost every weekend for close to 2years. That’s about 60k almost every weekend. Anyhow, somehow he found out after a certain matter and nosy friends input (long story) that she was actually not going home all those weekends. She had a FIANCE in Abuja. So he was side boyfriend sef. This was cheating. Why?
In two out of these three cool tales, the women actually had reasons for cheating. The third girl didn’t have any reason to. For a long while, my take on cheating was that people only did when they weren’t contented or fulfilled in their relationship but as I observed further, I noticed some other people who had terrible relationships stayed faithful simply because they chose to or due to morals, ethics, whatever. Some others that seem to get all the good stuff a person could wish for in relationships still cheat. I know there’s a whole lot of answers and opinions but no absolutes especially because no two kinds of people or  relationships are alike.  All the same, let’s hear your take.

Why do you think people cheat? If you ever cheated on your significant other, what would be your possible story/reason?

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21 thoughts on “Why Do People Cheat?

  1. serahdonald says:

    Wow gt me thinking* nice one

  2. I think there are many reasons, but none of them is a good reason to cheat. Some reasons are; indecision, loneliness, and need (financial). These are just basically them. Loneliness is further subdivided.
    What ever the case it is destructive to the one doing it and the ones being done to!

    • Annie says:

      I totally agree with this.
      There is NEVER a good reason to cheat. There may be a million & one VALID reasons to cheat but never one GOOD one.

  3. Olise' says:

    Some men have insatiable sexual appetites…it becomes a recreation, a sport…the same way men go out fishing or shooting birds…for some women, they do it error…to take revenge on their partners who do the same…

  4. Sometimes, when I buy Sharwama (sp?) From Legend I feel like I’m cheating on Chicken Capitol ( ._. )

    Also, when I drink something that isn’t Ribena, I just feel so dirty. ( ._.)

    I will NEVER eat cake that isn’t chocolate cake! I spit on every other kind ( >.<) There was this one time though…. (._. ) It was SO good (//_\\)

  5. thatifygirl says:

    Maan, some of us do it for the thrill (of being bad and not getting caught.)
    Some of us do it cos we think we’re in love (with the new stranger.)
    And some of us do it because we have been jazzed from our village (so that our penises and vaginas will never be satisfied or satiable.)

  6. Tari says:

    This matter doesn’t have any concrete answer. Why people cheat, we’ll never know. Sometimes people feel guilty afterwards other times they feel some form of elation. Point is we have learnt to stop questioning it and start accepting it as another constant in life such as death & taxes

  7. Salliness says:

    Cool story Bolu.

  8. sazzye says:

    Hmmmm. Well, sometimes for love, sometimes for money, sometimes for good sex/insatiable lust! But hey, what does a virgin christian sister know about these things? ._.

  9. kimeclectic says:

    Maybe its because the grass always seems greener on the other side..
    Some say it strengthens their relationship.

  10. People cheat to pass or to carry first or not to carry last or to win.
    Thank you.

    Larry Sushey.

  11. warmate says:

    Nice read.. i think People cheat because they can.. To have a relationship based on honesty and truthful communications trust takes a lot of mental and emotional maturity and some people never evolve to that level. so its just easier to cheat than to deal with the issues in their relationships.

  12. This blog is very verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyyyyyyy interesting. Keep it up.

  13. Yo_ItzRiff says:

    Well, I think people cheat because the activities in their relationships are not SATISFACTORY in different aspects to them. I’d like to also add – Lovely reasoning and presentation (Y)

  14. lepahtohbahd says:

    People cheat for a great number of reasons…Whether or not u feel guilty afterwards is a personal thing.I don’t think there’s ever a good reason to cheat tho.Just break it off if its not working…but then again,hmmm…..

  15. Therock says:

    Coming from oone who has cheated countless times and will still cheat: there is just one reason we all do it! Curiousity! Will it be better than the other? What if I tried this position? Has she gotten better at it? Is he as gud as he says he is? All these questions human nature just can’t stand the idea of not knowing! It makes ur head want to explode

  16. yvesyvesyves says:

    On the real cheating has nothing to do with reason, it’s about you and the person you have decided to become.. Whatever reason u give for cheating, there is someone out there who experienced same but chose not to cheat. No matter how faulty your partner may be, it comes down to ur person… Who do u want to be? How knowledgeable are u? How much resolve do u have?

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