Someone to Love

Kovie (@kovieparker) wrote this some time back and finished it just this evening. Could not be more spot on.


I don’t know my father…

Nelly had just said that to me as we lay on the living room floor, our backs slightly propped up with throw pillows to allow for a proper view of the 21″ LED screen hanging on the wall across us. The empty box of pizza we had just devoured was between us and the Television was still on. It was a hot Saturday afternoon and she had come over so we could go swimming together, but we were both feeling lazy and allowed ourselves get distracted by the movie showing. We ordered a box of pizza, turned up the AC in the room and settled in to enjoy the day. The second movie had just ended, and the last slice of pizza consumed, when she made this unprecedented declaration. I turned my head slowly to face her, unsure of what reaction or response would be appropriate. She had a somewhat abstract look on her face, trance-like. Her eyes were fixed to a point on the ceiling, her hands folded across her stomach, lips slightly apart as if she expected the words to proceed of their own accord.

I met Nelly barely six months ago at a friend’s party. I had run into her in the bathroom and she had complimented my shoes. We were soon engaged in a conversation on everything from fashion to politics and ended up spending the entire evening in one corner of the room just talking and sharing laughs. At the end of the evening, I offered her a ride home as she was slightly inebriated. A friendship and a bond was created that day.

(We have similar tastes in everything except men and share interests in a lot of activities. She jokingly introduces me as her ‘soul-sister’. I know very little about her personal life though. She seems to shy away from any topic that will make her reveal details of her life especially as it pertains to her family. I have never had a problem with that as I’m not exactly one to share intimate details either.)

“Babe, are you okay?” I asked, trying to decide what to do with the information she had just shared with me. There was no response from her. She was quiet, too quiet. Even her breathing seemed to have slowed down, almost as if she was asleep. She wasn’t though, her eyes were still open. Still staring.

Without warning, words began to come out of her mouth. She was addressing someone but spoke like she was alone in the room. Each word was spoken with caution, like she had just one chance to make this speech and she wanted to make sure she was using the right words.

“Daddy, why did you leave? I’ve missed you. I miss the soft kisses on my cheeks that you never gave me. Uncle Jide gave me kisses though. On my cheeks and more. He was nice and friendly. Mummy always let him tuck me in on the nights he was around. Then he would kiss me goodnight on my cheeks first, then lips. In time, he moved lower and everywhere his lips went, his fingers followed. He made me kiss him back too and I liked it. He was my daddy. That’s what I called him when we were alone. He said he liked it when I called him that. It made him happy, and I had to make daddy happy so he wouldn’t leave. I was twelve when he finally left. I cried. Even harder than mummy.
I miss the gifts you never gave me. Providing for all my needs like Alex. He always gave me all I wanted. He got me my first phone you know. After uncle Jide left, mummy didn’t have enough to take care of both of us. So Alex gave me gifts of all kinds. I got a lot of expensive things for free. Yes free. Unless you count the small favors I gave in return. It was nothing really. Better to let him have me than those cash less boys in school who wanted to score but could not afford it. Alex was special. At his age he could still perform wonders. The things he did at sixty a lot of men at twenty-five could not handle. Many thanks to the special blue pill.
I’ve had a lot of daddys. Tall, slim, fat, rich, short, old, young…

As this point, my mind began to drift. I couldn’t bear to listen anymore. She was stirring up emotions in me I had buried for years. Memories that were locked up in the deepest and darkest recesses of my mind. I didn’t have a daddy either, an absentee father didn’t count. And just like Nelly I had searched for a father in all the wrong places. I needed someone to love me, protect me, provide for me, guide me. One who would chase away the monster in the closet. I needed to be someone’s little princess. I didn’t mind giving up a piece of me in exchange for that which I desired. And I gave. Little by little I gave until I woke up one day to realize that there was nothing left to give. For as I gave, I didn’t receive in return. I had moved on from that, grown up from that longing or so I thought. I focused all that was left of me on my career and built a life for myself. As far as I could see, that was enough. Now Nelly’s words were breaking through my defenses and I was beginning to feel that longing again. Someone to love me.

I don’t have a father” she repeated, signaling the end of her tale. I took her hands in mine and made her look into my eyes. I needed her to see that I understood, that I felt her pain and was willing to share her burden.

“Neither do I” I responded, my voice barely a whisper. Then I lowered my head to hers and our lips met.

Someone to love.


26 thoughts on “Someone to Love

  1. tobicomm says:


  2. Lolu says:

    I enjoyed reading this so much!.

  3. Sirkastiq says:

    Ahhh… well.
    I guess we all deal with our problems differently.
    Very nice.

  4. aramaanda says:

    …I had searched for a father in all the wrong places…I needed to be someone’s little princess…I didn’ t mind giving up a piece of me in
    exchange for that which I desired. And I gave.
    Little by little I gave until I woke up one day to
    realize that there was nothing left to give. For as
    I gave, I didn’t receive in return…

    I love that paragraph…speaks volume…the ending though? *sighs*

  5. isleofcupid says:

    i have met your ‘sisters’ at different times n places. easy to case, easy to take advantage of.
    sad thing is more are rolling of the mills daily.
    God guide us all.

  6. ibetapassmynebo says:

    Oya Pick up ya Phone Na Na Na Na!

  7. Hmmm. Anna my dear. We’ll talk. Extremely nice.

  8. Frankices says:

    :O What the…?! Lol.

    TOTALLY unexpected ending. Perfect. (y)

  9. Ritzie says:

    Interesting read. I like.

  10. MsDuro says:

    I know my father.

  11. tolsbee says:

    WOW!!!!! I didn’t see that ending coming. Great piece. ‘iLove’

  12. Mz_Shadee says:

    Hmmmm nice. Especially d end, didn’t c dat coming.

  13. Anonymous says:

    Wow! Deep. Loved reading this.

  14. steffany_black says:

    Nyc post…the end tho….

  15. malota says:

    I LOVE THIS, as i already said, your words speak to my heart..i will not only be there for my daughter, i will be here to fulfil the purpose which God has for me, Amen.

  16. Adekemisola says:

    Yeah, almost all of us didn’t see ‘that’ coming. The ending just goes to re-emphasize this line: “…Now Nelly’s words were breaking through my defenses and I was beginning to feel that longing again. Someone to love me…”
    Very lovely piece.

  17. bolouere says:

    Daddy issues toh critical!

  18. kovieparker says:

    Thank ya’ll for reading and for all d comments. Highly appreciated.
    While I realize that the twist at the end might seem a little stereotype, truth is we all respond to issues differently and it’s usually easier when there’s someone who’s going through something similar. Men obviously haven’t been able to fill the void for either of my characters so I took the obvious alternative at the end.
    ‘Daddy issues’ are real and a lot of women are dealing or finding ways to deal with it, some not even knowing the cause of their issues. If we all make a commitment to build strong families, we will be doing a lot to save the next generation. However, many are hurting and we need to find a way to heal that hurt so we can stop the cycle. (Hope I make some sense) God help us.
    P.S. For those of you inquiring, no I’m neither lesbian nor bi-sexual. Lol

  19. alex says:

    Hmmmm, d way u delivered that SHOCKER @ d end makes quite a poignant statement, so men are to blame for that too….though i digress, do d guys hav mummy issues dat drive dem to it, u know?

  20. Chicasa says:

    Wow!!! I know I’m late buy I am in no way less stunned. Anna darling I love love love loveeeet!!! I am enthralled by the shocking twist at the end, true love fascinates me even if it’s in lesbianism altho I discriminate for the guys (no apologies, can’t help it).

    I’m all for the message as well – be a good dad for your daughters please. That reduces the number of insecure ladies out there.

    P.S: See what going off twitter can do? Gave me time to come back here after so much procrastination.

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